Monday, 1 July 2013

A question of Faith

I refer to myself as agnostic. Whereby, I am not sure I believe there is a God among us or not. If anything, I believe in spirituality; that there is a spiritual "force above" that guides our life's true destiny. To me, this is entirely separate to religion. In which, in reference to Christianity, I disagree with some concepts..going into no detail so to not offend, I hasten to add.      

This all being said, I was christened as a baby. My grandmother is fairly religious- more so in  her latter years so we are C of E children. However, my parents and intermediate family do not attend Church often, I must admit. This brings me to a question my father asked me in regards to why people have church weddings and christenings if they are not religious. It is a very fair point, but here are my two cents...

My thoughts on religion aside, I have always dreamt of a church wedding and insist on my (hopeful) future children to be christened. Personally, a ceremony in a church is meaningful and beautiful. Of course, I find a church to be atmospheric and the architecture  fantastic, but saying my vows before 'God' and a priest binds it for me. It's tradition and epitomises faith and promise to a person, whereby you can showcase your commitment in the most beautiful of ways. 

Sure, I don't classify myself as a Christian but a civil ceremony in a stately home or suchlike wouldn't feel right. Is this hypocrisy, to wish to marry in a place of worship? As for christenings, I share the same sentiment. It's a symbol of cleansing, protection of sin and announcing your precious gift. There may be many people that completely disagree with my opinions but the way I see it is, C of E accepts and welcomes people regardless of how religious they, so long as their reasons are understandable. The Church is supposedly non discriminatory and full of forgiveness, right?! 

This a deep subject and it also got me to wondering about faith and what will answer all those ontological questions that whirl through my mind. A bit off topic but Buddhism and Judaism have always interested me, looking at the nature of life, spirituality and culture.   

For instance, meditation and mindful awareness can only be positive practices to reduce stress and anxiety. Kabbalah is an interesting concept that is open to opinion, being it became popular with celebrities. Much research needed here as it is a bit cult-ish! In modern terms, it is the study of how to receive fulfilment in life; first stop, my little blog :-)


  1. Fabulous post
    Thanks for sharing!
    New post up on my blog, I'd love to find out what you think :)
    Speak soon,
    Have a great day
    Much Love,
    Kate xo

    1. Thank you Katie! I will be sure to continue reading your lovely posts :)

  2. When it comes to the issue of weddings, girls have it all wrong. They think it's their "special day," and it's all about them, and what they want.

    Not true.

    Getting married is about uniting your families, just as much about uniting yourselves. When my husband and I got married, it was a MINEFIELD. I'm Jewish, and that's EXTREMELY important to my family. He's Lutheran- his grandfather is a minister. So he always wanted a church wedding (not cool with my family), and I always wanted to be married in synagogue (as far from okay as it could possibly get for his family).

    Solution? We were married on a rooftop, under a chuppah, with his grandfather officiating over the traditional Jewish elements.

    It made everybody equally happy and uncomfortable.

    So when it comes to God and religion... we're on the fence. I don't buy into the whole Jesus thing at all. He doesn't get to be included in the parts of my religion that are exclusionary. The kids don't give a crap, as they're only a few feet tall.

    But both of us are respectful and open minded, and there's no judgement in our house for what people believe... so long as they're willing to talk about it, and to learn.

    1. Thank you for this reply; it really made me ponder :-) I loved your conclusion for your wedding ad how it combined uniting your families, and I certainly agree about your comment on religion!

  3. I love when bloggers post about hush-hush subjects, such as religion and sexuality, both of which I talk about often. I was raised loosely Catholic, however my mother was what would best be called a Kitchen Witch and my dad was into Shamanism. I, myself, am Pagan. I realized I was Wiccan when I was 13. I grew up reading about spirit animals, gemstone magick and the like. My mom could see auras and she was a bit psychic. She also read tarot cards, i-Ching and rune stones. I grew up with a belief in God, and Saints, however I never read a bible or went into a church. I believed even more in nature, magick, etc. and when I was 13, I realized Wicca was a religion that brought together nature, magick, a God and Goddess, deities, etc. and I knew that was right for me. However, this year I realized I am actually Pagan. It's much like Wicca, but different in a few ways. But it's still involving nature, magick, deities, God and Goddess, divination... all of the above.

    My wife and I had our wedding in a little Las Vegas, Nevada chapel because we wanted our marriage to be legal and at the time, producing a handfasting would be hard. I wanted to marry her as soon as I turned 18 (we've been together since I was 13, and engaged since I was 16.) So we said I Do. One day, we definitely want a handfasting, which is the union of two souls for forever and infinity. She's my soul mate, in every sense of the word and I am hers. We've been together 10 years now, and married for almost six. ^_^

    If we ever have children, they won't be christened or anything like that, however they will be brought up with the knowledge of as many religions as we can teach them, in a Pagan household, so they can choose what THEY believe in and feel is right. I am hoping our future children will be open-minded towards all religion, all sexuality, all gender expression, etc. with a love for people, animals, kindness and good deeds, mother Earth and the God, Goddess, deities and magick. If they decide they follow one God, or no Gods; if they decide to be Buddhist or Druidic, Shaman or otherwise, we'll support them. :)

    Thank you for bringing up this topic!

    1. Thank you :-) and what an interesting reply and "take" on life! I've always been fascinated about Wicca and Pagan as a religion. Your wedding sounds lovely and so true I'm sure, to your beliefs. Your children would be fortunate!

  4. I am Christian, but I don't consider myself religious at all. Religion is man made. Rather, I prefer to have faith rather than do all the ritualistic stuff that comes along with it. I was baptized at 16, but I don't think baptism has anything to do with being Saved--to me, it's just a public announcement of your faith. Jesus wasn't a religious man. If we are to call ourselves "CHRIST-ians," then we acknowledge that we're living as He lived. And to me, that means loving people, not discriminating and having faith in God. I guess partly why I'm not religious is because I've seen too many people live by what the church tells them to, and then are very hateful or judgmental of other people (LGBTQ community, other religions and cultures). That's not what Christ wants us to do. He accepts that we're not perfect--we don't have to live by the numbers--we just need to love one another and be our best for Him. It's really not a hard job.

    1. Hey Jennifer! Great points, and I tend to agree. I've seen hateful judgements from religious people that I feel is cruel to others. I mean, as I mentioned, I am never going to claim I'm something I'm not, but if you're a loving, decent person and if Christ is there, I'm sure everything happens for a reason :)